Fan Article Catharsis Alan McMillan 17/09/2024 12comments | Jump to last Everton fans, over the years, have become all too familiar with that losing feeling. We hate it, and we kid ourselves that it doesn't hurt. Behind the apathetic mask, it hurts. A lot. Inside, we are incredulous with rage that the players seem oblivious to the privilege bestowed upon them to play for this (once??) great club. Yet these players plunge us to deeper depths, devising novel ways of losing, of inflicting the worst kind of pain. They now serve this hurt with a dollop of ridicule. Everton are like an alcoholic spouse. They hurt you; deceive you. They play mind games, cause you emotional distress. They manipulate and make a fool of you. They promise they’lI change and, with your support, things will get better. And, for a while, you believe them. You see the shoots of recovery, you remember how things used to be and you are hopeful for the future. And then, they relapse. And it starts all over again. But you love them, you cannot help it. The hope that things might get better is what keeps you together, keeps you giving bits of yourself in the delusion that you will, one day, get back what you put in. The last couple of weeks have been nothing short of dreadful. We are now a laughing stock, we have become a meme. I'm sure there's a 'Spursy' type adjective for us by now. We live amongst smug Rednoses and we no longer have any comeback lines. Our team has a soft underbelly. The players who, after years of relegation struggle, chaos off the pitch, points deductions, quite possibly have some form of PTSD. Their mental state has to be questioned, and if we haven't already brought in psychologists, we need to do so quickly. Article continues below video content We have no leader on the pitch. We need a nasty bastard who will roar in the faces of those who are not doing their job, to snap them out of the panic and back to the task at hand. We have allowed a losing mindset to become ingrained in the club. The now famous 'knife to a gunfight' quote from Moyes, at once set the tone for us. We are inferior. Heroic failure is tolerable. Try your best, but It's okay to lose because we are not your equal. Nil Satis Nisi Mediocris. These days, even that seems a long way away. I have no answers to this. We could change the manager. This has not worked in the recent past. Get a new set of players in. Again, been done, no difference. How do you change the mindset of a club? Slowly, I guess. It seems we take one step forward and two steps back. Winning streaks, like ones last season, are followed by even longer losing streaks. It is exasperating. Watching the match against Villa, we effectively swapped a midfield of Onana and Barkley for Gueye and Iroeghunam. Luca Digne for Ashley Young. Players who we thought were part of the problem, are now excelling at another club. We played 5 at the back and still looked narrow, leaving acres of space down our flanks, particularly the right side. We have no collective spirit, no synergy. The team is less than the sum of its parts. When will this end? As a fanbase we must be nearing the end of our collective tethers. I only hope the players have the professionalism and self-respect to shake themselves out of this mire and bring us something to cheer again. Until the next calamitous loss. Reader Comments (12) Note: the following content is not moderated or vetted by the site owners at the time of submission. Comments are the responsibility of the poster. Disclaimer () Phillip Warrington 1 Posted 17/09/2024 at 22:27:03 I don't know anymore. Supporting Everton makes me so angry and bewildered. Why has an absolute moron been allowed to run this club? He must be in breach of owning a Premier League club by their rules. Dyche, like at Burnley, has reached his managerial capabilities and is struggling to manage the newer skillful players, Dyche only knows run and chase. Paul Kernot 2 Posted 17/09/2024 at 22:29:09 Paul Kernot 3 Posted 17/09/2024 at 22:45:17 Reading your first paragraph Ian, it seems you've had some personal experience. That or you're a counsellor perhaps? Either way, your post describes exactly how I & no doubt most of us feel & why we stay. Yesterday I forwarded a joke doing the rounds about Everton to a mate I haven't seen for years. He texted back asking who it was from. My response was 'PK. Die hard Everton fan'. Your post explains why perfectly. I can check out any time I like but I will never leave. Bob Parrington 4 Posted 19/09/2024 at 01:28:26 So sad, Alan – not just what has been happening at our beloved Everton but that the emotions you are describing will be felt by many, if not all, Blues fans.I started to support Everton as a young kid back in 1954, have been through some really good times, like many others. But the past 10 to 15 years have moved through hurtful to agonising!But, once an Evertonian, always an Evertonian. Despite the few gloom merchants' comments, I often wonder what I would do without ToffeeWeb. Let's get through this together and recover our position in the top table positions! Paul Rattle 5 Posted 19/09/2024 at 07:04:06 At the end of the day, this is the only version of Everton you will ever get under Dyche.The man, much like Sam Allardyce before him, is a pragmatist by stock and trade, he can't change his beliefs, you either tolerate it until the end of the season or you don't, simple as.You can play good football at smaller clubs, Roberto Martinez proved this when he was at Wigan Athletic, which you can look at in a positive or negative way.In one way, he did miracles to keep a small town up for 5 years, a rugby town primarily, and also achieved something that they will never forget and probably never achieve again, by lifting the FA Cup, all while playing an attractive brand of football.Yet, on the other hand, you have Sean Dyche who kept Burnley floating just above the plughole for a few seasons by playing uncompromising rather pragmatic football, not one to entertain, never one to create a style other than shaped in his own mould, and still at the end of it, Burnley would have been relegated eventually under him but decided to sack him in early April 2022 to change the wind.It was too late by then, damage done, Dyche had a. terrible win ratio that season, and hasn't won a game of football in August since 2017 I understand.This proves to me he's not a man that is particularly in keeping with how most clubs want to play the game these days, the modern way of thinking.For fans who say you can't play attractive football with these players, yes you can, you really can.They are Premier League football players, many of them international players. I've seen teams in League One play a style that at least looks planned.We don't have a plan other than to hit set pieces and work it out wide to slow-paced wide men. That's not a particular brand of football I want to see my Everton play. If it floats people's boats, happy to sit and watch it, that's fine too. Danny O'Neill 6 Posted 19/09/2024 at 07:23:37 Very thoughtful post, Paul.We can actually play some decent stuff with the players we have. Yes, they aren't world beaters, but they can play if given the freedom.But they seemingly have shackles on them and too many times. The defence plays very narrow, resulting in the full-backs having to race out as the opposition exploits the space we leave on our flanks, leaving gaps to be exploited. We miss the midfield out too often and the team doesn't get close to the forwards enough. That is down to tactics.We seem to be playing like reluctant footballers. That is confidence.It was good to see young Dixon and Armstrong playing with energy and desire. Okay, Dixon gave away a few free kicks, but I'll take that. Ernie Baywood 7 Posted 19/09/2024 at 08:32:21 Agree with your post, Paul, though I disagree that Dyche is a pragmatist. All his words indicate it but he isn't someone who deals in reality. He's playing his way. It's all he's got. He's certainly not dealing with the realities of the squad or the club. He's just spent his time at the club trying to convince people that the reality suits his style.I think that for a long time now these players have looked like shells of themselves. They're told that they're not good enough to play football and then sent on the park to forget any thoughts of using the ball and directed to chase and hope for a defensive error or a set piece. The equivalent would be demoralising for any professional.I don't think they need to be shouted at more. I think they need someone who makes them want to play football and to achieve for both this club and for their own careers. Joe McMahon 8 Posted 19/09/2024 at 09:08:35 Paul@5, Dyche relegated Burnley twice, and gotvthem promoted twice. The longer he stays this season will be his third relegation from the PL.Someone posted after the Villa match, 2 thing that will win us points.Calvert-lewin Lewim spending all day on 1:1s with Begovic or Virginia and Pickford spending all day having to command the box with crosses. Sam Hoare 9 Posted 19/09/2024 at 09:19:14 Given the doom and gloom youd think wed been horrendous for ever (and it certainly feels like that) but people forget we would have been 12th last season if not for the deduction, level on points with the much vaunted Brighton and ahead of big spending Bournemouth.It was far from a dream come true but it was a definite improvement on the previous two seasons and included a title vanishing defeat for the RS.Sure the football is a bit joyless but swapping suddenly to a more progressive manager could be extremely risky (as we saw with Lampard) and would be best done when we have the financial freedom to reflect such a change in style with new acquisitions. Asking the likes of Michael Keane to play out from the back will not go well.Its been a horrible start to the season results wise and if it continues till October then Dyche will have to go but whoever replaces him will not be letting the shackles off. It will be Moyes or Corberan or some other manager who prioritises solidity and pragmatism.My faith in Dyche is waning fast but I still have some belief that he will pick up the results needed in this accommodating run of fixtures. If he can get us through this season to 12th again or thereabouts that will be job done and then (at the end of his contract) as we move into the new stadium with a new owner will be the time to aim higher and hopefully see some prettier football at Bramley Moore. Bob Parrington 10 Posted 19/09/2024 at 10:36:46 Ooooh! Ernie @ 7 Your last paragraph really struck a note. Encouragement not embarrassment, Can do not don't do. You can do not can't do. Try this, don't dare (glad we have Ndiaye). Ultimately - we can win. Use your skills as a team and blow them off the pitch.The power of positive thinking! Leader on the pitch!!!Danny. Want a Coaching job! 👍🤔🥂 Alan McMillan 11 Posted 19/09/2024 at 11:33:09 Somewhat soothing to think we are all suffering similar emotions and hurt. It's because we care so much. @Philip 1, I agree, there must be some kind of dereliction of duty by the directors. I think as a fanbase we are worn out. We have been scarred over recent years. The season is barely a month old and we are filled with dread and anxiety. International breaks are like an island in a sea storm. I just want to go back to the days of stability, hope and optimism. Apologies for being so pessimistic and such a buzz kill!It's good to talk. :-) Dave Abrahams 12 Posted 19/09/2024 at 11:59:59 Alan good post at the beginning to start this thread and your follow-up. The more you love somebody, the more it hurts when they are in trouble, Everton is in deep trouble and so we feel the pain of that collectively. I couldn't shout anything after that Bournemouth last 10 minutes collapse, just stood dumbstruck. I was resigned to the defeat vs Southampton on Tuesday even at the start of the penalty shootout, accepting we wouldn't win. I still believe we will get through this season and stay up but we will have to play more positive football than we are playing now especially when the squad has a full complement of fit players.I wonder how much influence Alan Woan is allowed with any input of football knowledge with him being the only real footballer among the main three in charge of running that side of the club, with Steve Stone a runner and Dyche a hard-working grafter. Add Your Comments In order to post a comment, you need to be logged in as a registered user of the site. » Log in now Or Sign up as a ToffeeWeb Member — it's free, takes just a few minutes and will allow you to post your comments on articles and Talking Points submissions across the site. How to get rid of these ads and support TW © ToffeeWeb